Psychotherapy

The thinking behind treatment

Psychoanalytic theory makes it possible to examine patterns in behavior and relationships. These patterns create symptoms or emotional difficulties. In psychotherapy there is no advice giving, rather you will develop skills for making decisions. The process involves finding and resolving the roots of difficulties in a warm, collaborative relationship. Together we both comb through issues, by making sense of the surface symptoms as well as the hidden unconscious features underneath.

Although this form of therapy tends to take longer than other forms of therapy, its results have been found to last longer and therefore are more effective. Read more in the following article:
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2016/jan/07/therapy-wars-revenge-of-freud-cognitive-behavioural-therapy

The key ingredients of therapy:

The key ingredients include totally privacy, careful listening, no criticism and deep understanding. This allows for a safe place where intimate issues and worries can be discussed. Here is a relationship where your most personal and sensitive topics are discussed and understood. Painful and complex feelings can therefore be managed and resolved with respect and kindness.

Phases of treatment:

1. Assessment Phase

We get to know each other over a few sessions and decide together how best to proceed. This can include referrals to other professionals.

2. Treatment Phase

Psychotherapy is usually intensive and regular to maintain the depth of the conversations, to ensure the flow of communication and to support the changes that occur. Sometimes a short therapy is agreed upon.

Strong feelings are usually elicited, sometimes positive and often negative. These feelings are welcomed as important discussion points for the therapy. They are resolved in reference to the therapy as well as the larger world.

3. Ending Phase

Usually symptoms disappear quite quickly and it can be tempting to end the therapy. If it continues, the therapy addresses the deeper less known influences and causes of underlying symptoms.

Psychotherapy is offered to: Adults, couples , parents, children and babies.

Adults

In adult psychotherapy, respect and privacy is key. A warm and supportive attitude is also important. In order to be as relaxed as possible comfortable chairs, blankets, extra cushions as well as a couch are available. Some adults are encouraged to use the couch to lie down on and feel freer to describe their inner world and thoughts. This climate of collaboration and trust allows painful and conflicted issues to be discussed and later resolved.

Couples

Whether married or not, couples are usually seeking therapy in order to improve communication around a common issue. Therapy offers support and a neutral attitude. Differences are always recognized so that a common path can be found. Usually couples hope to find a way to become more respectful and caring towards each other. Occasionally there is too much anger and they do not feel hopeful. In either case, this anger and hurt, which has built up over time, is laid out for discussion in a climate of respectful communication.

Parents

Parent work is a mindful approach to dealing with the difficulties that children bring. Often parents solve their child’s difficulties without requiring play or other therapies. Parents identify their own parenting styles in relation to their own parents. They recognize how they repeat unintentionally and intentionally healthy and unwanted ways of parenting. Together parents can find an identity as a unique parenting couple which is a combination of both their histories and their individual personalities. The consequence is that the child is better understood and the parents feel confident and competent.

Children

A child sometimes needs a place to play out his or her worries. This happens in a well equipped playroom which is a fun but also containing safe place. The child is never treated in isolation and regular contact is kept with their school and parents. Often the parents receive separate guidance alongside their child’s therapy.

Babies

The “under fives” work is a specialization which provides parents and their little ones a thoughtful place to resolve issues. There is discussion around facilitating the developmental milestones that children need to achieve. As the advent of a baby is a life changing event, it is normal for parents to have differences and difficulties, These are openly discussed and although guidance can be offered, usually parents are supported in finding their own methods to negotiate the parenting tasks they face. Worries around toilet training, feeding and sleeping difficulties or separating and happily going to school are common topics that arise. The small child is also supported in expressing him or herself understand their little one better. The usual outcome is more confident, appropriate parenting and a better understood small child.